Friday, 24 February 2012

Life and Death in Nieu-Bethesda

Mita is dead... a sadness and cloud of mourning hangs over Nieu-Bethesda. Mita committed suicide. She was 21 years old, they found her dead with her  9 months old baby sitting next to her. Mita was a cheery and happy person, or so it seemed to everybody, no one knew she was not coping. But then, nobody ever really knows what goes on in other people's lives, hearts and souls. Mita's baby won't ever know his mother or remember her and will for the rest of his life only know that she deserted him and left him alone to grow up and find his way in this crazy and beautiful world. I didn't know Mita, but her death and the baby she left behind reminds me of one of my favorite poems, also the saddest poem... this is for Mita, from her baby...

Funeral Blues (W.H. Auden)

Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.

Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message She is Dead,
Put crepe bows round the necks of the doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.

She was my North, my South, my East, my West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last forever; I was wrong.

The stars are not wanted now; put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the woods.
For nothing now can ever come to any good.

Mita will be put to rest tomorrow, Mita may you rest in peace...

And yet life goes on, even in Nieu-Bethesda. The roosters start crowing at 6 and the birds chirp from early in the morning. People get up and go their way, walking to work or opening their doors for the new day. Tourists come and go, unaware of the cloud hanging over Nieu-Bethesda. Life in Nieu-Bethesda is intense and real. The dogs still walk around, as if the streets belong to them. The horses roam free and dust still hangs in the air everytime a car drives in or out of Nieu-Bethesda. Woman knock on my door to come say hello and bring me flowers, decadent quiches and glorious jars full of handmade jam... The stars still shine bright in the night and fills you with amazement  everytime you look at them, making you feel so small. It is warm during the day, the wind blows in the afternoon as if there is no tomorrow. And for Mita there isn't...

And as it is in life, even without Mita, Nieu-Bethesda is still a magical place... As it was
before I came to live here and as it will be after I go one day...

Tuesday, 7 February 2012

Life Stories and Time Travel

The decision to give up my life and career in the city was by no means an easy one. Being stuck in a comfort zone is easy, moving out from that zone into the unknown is difficult and scary.

"Thinking" !! Something I do to much, I am told, was what I did a lot during this process of decision making. And praying, looking for guidance from God. My health forced me to go through this process and this struggle got me to Life Stories. 

I wrote down my whole Life Story, from where I had memories up to November 2011. I wrote about everything, the good, the bad, the happy, the sad, that is what Life is, after all... a journey consisting of high's and low's and what I call in-betweens, the bits where life happens while you are busy.

Reading my Life Story aloud afterwards was an experience which gave me perspective on my life. On the things I chose to be part of my Life Story and the things I didn't choose, choices made by parents, husbands, employers, family and friends that I had to live with and built my life around. It wasn't an easy experience, reliving some parts of my life, others brought back happy and positive feelings. I looked at it holistically. As a journey, a journey of growth and learning, a journey that brought me where I was in November 2011, a journey who made me who I am today. And I felt content with who I am...

Then I went time travelling... I went to ten years from now and I looked back over my life as if I had already lived the next ten years. And I wrote my Life Story for the next ten years, as I would like it to be. Liberating indeed !! 

Making the decision after that was easy. Writing down my Life Story made me realise so many things - That life is truly a journey... That the choices you make everyday, or the ones you don't make, gives way to what will form part of your journey, your Life Story a year or two or ten down the line and at the end of your journey. 

So here I am...
Slowly but surely creating my Life Story and searching for Muchness... One day at a time...